You don’t allow people to talk to you any kind of way, so don’t talk to yourself any kind of way. Love yourself. Lift yourself up. Encourage yourself. Life and death is in your mouth. Produce life. #OperationMe #LoveYourself
My 2 year old niece stayed the night with me. Like most toddlers, she took over the bed and invaded my space. lol. I slid her over to her side multiple times. But the last time I moved her little body, she opened her pretty eyes to look for me. She stretched out her hand and moved back over towards me. What I then realized was that she didn’t just accidentally wander to my side, it was more than that. She wanted to be held. She wanted to be close. Maybe she just wanted to feel loved? Maybe she felt protected? Whatever she longed for, she knew that I had it.
Long story short….GOD HAS WHAT YOU NEED!
I began to think, how often does God try to get our attention? How much would He love for us to just stop what we are doing and reach out to Him? Run to Him? Love on Him? Cry out to Him? Worship Him?
HE HAS WHAT WE NEED.
Get into His presence.
Read the Bible.
Peace and Blessings.
I didn’t fully grow to love myself until I grew in Christ. It wasn’t until I learned His word that I stopped believing and relying on the words of people. I so often held onto people’s words. Looked for that compliment. Reached to be seen. People pleased to be liked. Dressed to be noticed. Put down others to feel better. Avoided me because it was too hurtful. Too hurtful to deal with my insecurities. Too “complicated” to figure out how I could change. Too deep to start caring about others. Too numb to even care.
When I finally made up in my mind that I wanted more of Jesus, the deliverance started to take place. When I seeked Him more, my attitude changed. The more I read His word, the more I lived His word. My thoughts changed. My walk changed. My talk changes. Soon I began to look in the mirror and love what I saw. Soon I began to believe. Believe what He said about me. No longer did I need the words of people to validate me. Nope! I was free. Free from broken relationships. Free from selfishness. Free from pain. Free from shame. Free from hurt. Free from the feeling of not being enough. Free from ME!
Beautiful. There are many definitions. But only one is true. Can you guess which one is the true definition? You. Yupp, you got it! YOU! Your smile is radiating. Your presence is wanted. Your words are pleasant. Your hair is perfect. Without makeup, your still breathtakingly gorgeous. Your laugh is contagious.
I can see God now. Having to step back to admire His perfect work. Truly, He created a masterpiece when He created you. He looked and smiled, “This is My child.” Perfect are we in His sight. Precious, extraordinary, magnificent, and unique.
Why is it so hard for us to see the same in ourselves? Maybe our image of ourselves have been tainted by society. Maybe someone needed to feel better about themselves by putting you down. They have reprogrammed our way of thinking. Our self esteem was knocked down a notch with every word. We need this and that….We must do this and that in order for us to be considered beautiful. But PLEASE don’t give in. PLEASE don’t believe the lies. PLEASE don’t base your beauty off of how someone else looks or the opinions of people. Learn to see yourself how God sees you. Look at yourself through His eyes. If beauty is in the eye of the beholder, allow those eyes to be yours.
What’s the definition of beautiful? You!
Who would’ve thought, I would be following my dreams.
Who would’ve thought, I would be happy being me.
Who would’ve thought that when I smiled it was no longer to hide the pain.
Who would’ve thought that she would remain sane.
There were moments when I should have lost my mind.
There were times I just wanted to die.
But the nerve of me to want to cut off my destiny!
I didn’t know it then, but I know now, that there’s a great work to be done through me.
I must push past the feeling of not being enough.
Push past the negative thoughts.
Positive thinking helps stop overthinking.
You can do this.
You will win.
Someone is waiting for you to succeed.
Someone is rooting for me.
Someone is rooting for you too!
They want to see you grow in knowledge and wisdom.
They want to see the pain healed.
They are calling your name in prayer.
They are longing to see you walk with your head held high for the world to see the beauty that they saw all along.
That person is me!
I am changing my mindset.
I love myself.
I am worth loving.
I am beautiful.
I am a winner.
I can do all things through Christ.
I am more than enough.
I am happy being me.
If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love. (1 Corinthians 13:1-13 NIV)
A special thank you to She.Unique Photography for capturing my vision.
I would be retired and traveling the world if I had a nickle for every time I heard “I hope you have a backup because I’m going to break your camera”?! This statement is often said jokingly, but they truly feel the words are true.
One day I had a client who said this to me as soon as she walked into the studio. She was 60 years old. Right after she uttered the words, I knew she was serious. “I know I’m ugly and my daughter knows that I’m ugly. She tells me all of the time.” Needless to say my heart was broken. How in the world could she believe this? And on top of that, hear it from her daughter? So I went on to ask, “How long have you felt this way?” Her response was, “For 60 years.” I was shocked. I wanted to just embrace her and tell her what she felt isn’t true. But the schedule didn’t allow for a good ole therapeutic session. For me to stop taking photos and just sit and talk to this lovely lady was not an option (especially while on company time). So, I had to change my approach. Often times, I’ll have my client repeat a word or phrase after me to help get them to smile naturally. I would do the same with her, but these words would be positive and uplifting.
Long story short, every effort that was put forth in the 30 minute session was not accepted. She left feeling the same way she came in. She said, “Thank you, but there’s nothing you can say to change the way I feel.” I really had high hopes that what I said to her would take the place of what she trained her brain to think over the course of her life and the words she accepted from her family. But, I know a seed was planted and pray someone else comes along to water it.
How often do you look in the mirror and dislike what you see? You stand there and it almost seems as if all of your “flaws” are illuminated. Why? Because you’re focusing on them. Quick story(yes another one lol): I have this tooth that’s a bit crooked. One day as I was looking in the mirror, I noticed that it was even more crooked then the day before (it really wasn’t). Because I focused on it, it was like I put a magnifying glass to my tooth and this is all I saw when I looked at myself. Like the lady in my previous story, I began to look at myself differently and as a result didn’t like what I saw staring back at me. I had to quickly “slap” myself and change my thoughts. I begin to speak words of greatness. As soon as did, I began to see myself in a different light. I looked “normal” again.
As you may already know, the mind is a powerful tool. You are what you think. If you constantly put yourself down and allow your negative words as well as others to change the way you view yourself, you will forever be enslaved to them. You have the power to accept or decline words spoken over your life. The way you think will ultimately determine the way you live. Soon you’ll notice that you’ll have an “I don’t care attitude”. What people think will not affect you in anyway.
We know that the mind is powerful. You are what you think. Change the way you think and you will change your life.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Allow those eyes to be yours.
Embrace your uniqueness.
You are dope.
Beauty. Its more than appearance. Allow it to radiate from within.
When you value yourself, others will too.
Be the person that make things happen.
You are capable of doing great things with your life.
Jesus loves you.
I do realize that I am a rare beauty (no I’m not laying on the horn lol), but The most beautiful thing about me is that I have a heart for God. Living a life that pleases Him is important to me and I strive for excellence when it comes to my walk. I am challenged daily to strengthen my walk with Him. Although I may slip up and fall at times, I am wholeheartedly pressing towards the mark for the prize of the high calling ( Philippians 3:14). In doing so there has to be a constant renewing of my mind (Romans 12:2). I can’t expect to move forward in newness when I am partaking in the old. My old self has died and been made new in Christ. How can a young believer stay pure? By living according to the word (Psalms 119:9).