You don’t allow people to talk to you any kind of way, so don’t talk to yourself any kind of way. Love yourself. Lift yourself up. Encourage yourself. Life and death is in your mouth. Produce life. #OperationMe #LoveYourself
Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.
2 Corinthians 5:17 KJV
Just in case you don’t know, let me tell you …
I didn’t truly love and embrace Jessica until my relationship with Christ grew. So as I read this scripture, I’m reminded of some things that I once did. But like the scripture says, because I have Christ I am new. Now, don’t think for a minute that once I accepted Christ everything about about me changed right away. No. I had to reprogram.
No longer do I crave the attention
No longer do I thrive off compliments.
No longer do I struggle with low self esteem.
No longer do I live my life based on the opinions of others.
No longer do I desire to be a Jones.
No longer do I hide pain behind this smile.
No longer do I put myself down.
No longer a slave to “likes”.
No longer do I struggle with my worth.
So if act brand new, it’s only because I am. Now, I see myself through God’s eyes. And you know what? I’m pretty special.
I didn’t fully grow to love myself until I grew in Christ. It wasn’t until I learned His word that I stopped believing and relying on the words of people. I so often held onto people’s words. Looked for that compliment. Reached to be seen. People pleased to be liked. Dressed to be noticed. Put down others to feel better. Avoided me because it was too hurtful. Too hurtful to deal with my insecurities. Too “complicated” to figure out how I could change. Too deep to start caring about others. Too numb to even care.
When I finally made up in my mind that I wanted more of Jesus, the deliverance started to take place. When I seeked Him more, my attitude changed. The more I read His word, the more I lived His word. My thoughts changed. My walk changed. My talk changes. Soon I began to look in the mirror and love what I saw. Soon I began to believe. Believe what He said about me. No longer did I need the words of people to validate me. Nope! I was free. Free from broken relationships. Free from selfishness. Free from pain. Free from shame. Free from hurt. Free from the feeling of not being enough. Free from ME!
Beautiful. There are many definitions. But only one is true. Can you guess which one is the true definition? You. Yupp, you got it! YOU! Your smile is radiating. Your presence is wanted. Your words are pleasant. Your hair is perfect. Without makeup, your still breathtakingly gorgeous. Your laugh is contagious.
I can see God now. Having to step back to admire His perfect work. Truly, He created a masterpiece when He created you. He looked and smiled, “This is My child.” Perfect are we in His sight. Precious, extraordinary, magnificent, and unique.
Why is it so hard for us to see the same in ourselves? Maybe our image of ourselves have been tainted by society. Maybe someone needed to feel better about themselves by putting you down. They have reprogrammed our way of thinking. Our self esteem was knocked down a notch with every word. We need this and that….We must do this and that in order for us to be considered beautiful. But PLEASE don’t give in. PLEASE don’t believe the lies. PLEASE don’t base your beauty off of how someone else looks or the opinions of people. Learn to see yourself how God sees you. Look at yourself through His eyes. If beauty is in the eye of the beholder, allow those eyes to be yours.
What’s the definition of beautiful? You!
Who would’ve thought, I would be following my dreams.
Who would’ve thought, I would be happy being me.
Who would’ve thought that when I smiled it was no longer to hide the pain.
Who would’ve thought that she would remain sane.
There were moments when I should have lost my mind.
There were times I just wanted to die.
But the nerve of me to want to cut off my destiny!
I didn’t know it then, but I know now, that there’s a great work to be done through me.
I must push past the feeling of not being enough.
Push past the negative thoughts.
Positive thinking helps stop overthinking.
You can do this.
You will win.
Someone is waiting for you to succeed.
Someone is rooting for me.
Someone is rooting for you too!
They want to see you grow in knowledge and wisdom.
They want to see the pain healed.
They are calling your name in prayer.
They are longing to see you walk with your head held high for the world to see the beauty that they saw all along.
That person is me!
I would be retired and traveling the world if I had a nickle for every time I heard “I hope you have a backup because I’m going to break your camera”?! This statement is often said jokingly, but they truly feel the words are true.
One day I had a client who said this to me as soon as she walked into the studio. She was 60 years old. Right after she uttered the words, I knew she was serious. “I know I’m ugly and my daughter knows that I’m ugly. She tells me all of the time.” Needless to say my heart was broken. How in the world could she believe this? And on top of that, hear it from her daughter? So I went on to ask, “How long have you felt this way?” Her response was, “For 60 years.” I was shocked. I wanted to just embrace her and tell her what she felt isn’t true. But the schedule didn’t allow for a good ole therapeutic session. For me to stop taking photos and just sit and talk to this lovely lady was not an option (especially while on company time). So, I had to change my approach. Often times, I’ll have my client repeat a word or phrase after me to help get them to smile naturally. I would do the same with her, but these words would be positive and uplifting.
Long story short, every effort that was put forth in the 30 minute session was not accepted. She left feeling the same way she came in. She said, “Thank you, but there’s nothing you can say to change the way I feel.” I really had high hopes that what I said to her would take the place of what she trained her brain to think over the course of her life and the words she accepted from her family. But, I know a seed was planted and pray someone else comes along to water it.
How often do you look in the mirror and dislike what you see? You stand there and it almost seems as if all of your “flaws” are illuminated. Why? Because you’re focusing on them. Quick story(yes another one lol): I have this tooth that’s a bit crooked. One day as I was looking in the mirror, I noticed that it was even more crooked then the day before (it really wasn’t). Because I focused on it, it was like I put a magnifying glass to my tooth and this is all I saw when I looked at myself. Like the lady in my previous story, I began to look at myself differently and as a result didn’t like what I saw staring back at me. I had to quickly “slap” myself and change my thoughts. I begin to speak words of greatness. As soon as did, I began to see myself in a different light. I looked “normal” again.
As you may already know, the mind is a powerful tool. You are what you think. If you constantly put yourself down and allow your negative words as well as others to change the way you view yourself, you will forever be enslaved to them. You have the power to accept or decline words spoken over your life. The way you think will ultimately determine the way you live. Soon you’ll notice that you’ll have an “I don’t care attitude”. What people think will not affect you in anyway.
We know that the mind is powerful. You are what you think. Change the way you think and you will change your life.
I do realize that I am a rare beauty (no I’m not laying on the horn lol), but The most beautiful thing about me is that I have a heart for God. Living a life that pleases Him is important to me and I strive for excellence when it comes to my walk. I am challenged daily to strengthen my walk with Him. Although I may slip up and fall at times, I am wholeheartedly pressing towards the mark for the prize of the high calling ( Philippians 3:14). In doing so there has to be a constant renewing of my mind (Romans 12:2). I can’t expect to move forward in newness when I am partaking in the old. My old self has died and been made new in Christ. How can a young believer stay pure? By living according to the word (Psalms 119:9).
I am more than enough.
I am destined for greatness.
I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
I am God’s masterpiece.
Now you say it!
When I look into the mirror, what do I see?
A woman that’s put together so wonderfully.
I was phenomenally made by God.
Yes, cheerfully He created a masterpiece to display.
For His work to speak of His goodness each day.
Let His greatness be seen in me
May my life be rich in favor for all to see.
I could really care less about what people think about me;
I cant allow their words to determine my destiny.
For me to become enslaved to the words of society,
would be a total disappointment to the One who created me.
I walk with confidence because I know Who holds my future.
I’m on a quest.
I’m on a mission.
Lord, use me.