I would be retired and traveling the world if I had a nickle for every time I heard “I hope you have a backup because I’m going to break your camera”?! This statement is often said jokingly, but they truly feel the words are true.
One day I had a client who said this to me as soon as she walked into the studio. She was 60 years old. Right after she uttered the words, I knew she was serious. “I know I’m ugly and my daughter knows that I’m ugly. She tells me all of the time.” Needless to say my heart was broken. How in the world could she believe this? And on top of that, hear it from her daughter? So I went on to ask, “How long have you felt this way?” Her response was, “For 60 years.” I was shocked. I wanted to just embrace her and tell her what she felt isn’t true. But the schedule didn’t allow for a good ole therapeutic session. For me to stop taking photos and just sit and talk to this lovely lady was not an option (especially while on company time). So, I had to change my approach. Often times, I’ll have my client repeat a word or phrase after me to help get them to smile naturally. I would do the same with her, but these words would be positive and uplifting.
Long story short, every effort that was put forth in the 30 minute session was not accepted. She left feeling the same way she came in. She said, “Thank you, but there’s nothing you can say to change the way I feel.” I really had high hopes that what I said to her would take the place of what she trained her brain to think over the course of her life and the words she accepted from her family. But, I know a seed was planted and pray someone else comes along to water it.
How often do you look in the mirror and dislike what you see? You stand there and it almost seems as if all of your “flaws” are illuminated. Why? Because you’re focusing on them. Quick story(yes another one lol): I have this tooth that’s a bit crooked. One day as I was looking in the mirror, I noticed that it was even more crooked then the day before (it really wasn’t). Because I focused on it, it was like I put a magnifying glass to my tooth and this is all I saw when I looked at myself. Like the lady in my previous story, I began to look at myself differently and as a result didn’t like what I saw staring back at me. I had to quickly “slap” myself and change my thoughts. I begin to speak words of greatness. As soon as did, I began to see myself in a different light. I looked “normal” again.
As you may already know, the mind is a powerful tool. You are what you think. If you constantly put yourself down and allow your negative words as well as others to change the way you view yourself, you will forever be enslaved to them. You have the power to accept or decline words spoken over your life. The way you think will ultimately determine the way you live. Soon you’ll notice that you’ll have an “I don’t care attitude”. What people think will not affect you in anyway.
We know that the mind is powerful. You are what you think. Change the way you think and you will change your life.